For those of you who don’t already know, I recently got engaged. It was the most perfect proposal; on the beach (my favourite place) with some of my favourite people close by! Perfect! Those of you who know me well will know that I’ve been ready for this (engagement, wedding and marriage) for a little while. In fact, I’ve been so ready, I’ve had a “secret” Pinterest wedding board for a good couple of years (you’re rolling your eyes at me but we all know you have your own secret Pinterest board that you don’t want anyone else to know about)! However ready I thought I was I really had no idea. This wedding planning malarkey, albeit fun, exciting and the best thing I’ve ever had to plan (certainly beats lesson planning that’s for sure), really is not as easy as I had anticipated even though I like things simple. You go into it thinking, “I’ve got this, this is going to be the best wedding ever” however, along the way, there are little things waiting to trip you up and laugh in your face. So, I thought I’d take you on my wedding planning journey and tell you a few things that have been waiting to trip me up! So sit back, relax, get a cup of tea and a biscuit and get ready to have a good laugh…at my expense.
I’m going to try and do this chronologically, how I came across it, is how it will appear in the blogs – I hope! So I will start in the most obvious place…the proposal. Now, this, you may think, is out of my hands so how could I possible get this wrong? You are right, it is out of my hands and that is EXACTLY what tripped me up. As I mentioned above, I was so completely and utterly ready for it and I wasn’t shy in making that known. All my friends knew, Dan knew, my family knew, even some of the pupils would ask and anyone who was reading my blogs would also know (poor Dan); I was ready! That, however, doesn’t matter. A relationship takes two to tango and you both have to be ready, it has to be the right time for you both and although I knew we both were ready, what I failed to realise is that for it to happen in the way Dan wanted it to (and in the most special way possible), I’d have to forget I was ready and trust him.
Instead of reminding him (at every bloody opportunity) that I was ready, I should have told him once and when he replied “I know you are, just trust me” I should have! Everyone kept telling me that when it happened, it would be the best thing ever, that I should be patient and let Dan do his thing. They kept reminding me that things happen for a reason and I should let nature take its course. However, was I willing to listen? Hell no! I kept on, glaring in jewellery shop windows, lingering by the engagement rings, pinning all my favourite rings and making a bloody Pinterest wedding board. Needless to say I should have trusted those people, I should have trusted Dan because his proposal was just perfect and turns out to be one of the best things to happen to me to this day. It was so unexpected, so me, just perfect. He did good and I should have known he would.
The unexpected nature of it all made it even more special. I had no idea Dan was even on the beach, I was expecting to see him the next day and didn’t guess a thing. In fact, quite the opposite, I had resigned to the fact that I was going to have to wait a while and just let it happen when it did. I thought that maybe all the hint dropping had put him off so my frame of mind was nowhere near proposals. Take it from me, that is the best way! He knew I was ready and I didn’t even need to say it.
So, anyone out there, in the same position as me, trust him/her, they know what they’re doing! They’ve got it. So just be patient and in the mean time, get creating that Pinterest board!! This first blog is just a little taste of what’s to come so stay tuned for the next blog to find out how, when I thought I had it in the bag (wedding planning), I never really did!