So as we creep closer to the end of my wedding planning journey, I wanted to put a list out there for all of you planning a wedding to help you on your way. I was a complete newbie to this wedding planning malarkey and even though I loved every single second, there were also things that I NEVER knew I had to think about and so, I think it’s only right that I pass on my new found wisdom to my lovely readers plus a little freebie along the way to enjoy! So, here goes:
1. Have a budget and stick to it
It is so very easy to spend more than you want to (believe me). You can get completely carried away so easily! You need to be strong, set a budget and STICK TO IT! Be realistic but don’t go crazy (if you don’t want to). They say an average UK wedding costs something like £24,000-£30,000 but OH MY GOODNESS, you could buy a house for that! We did NOT want to spend a load of money on ours, I can tell you that! If you have the money, great! If not, don’t feel like you HAVE to spend that much! I have attached a wedding budget breakdown for £15,000 as an idea for you at the bottom of the page, so feel free to download and enjoy. However, this isn’t what you HAVE to spend and you can spend A LOT less. This is just what I think may be deemed as reasonable for some people. Don’t get me wrong though, this is still a hell of a lot of money that you don’t necessarily need to spend to enjoy your day! *disclaimer – this is NOT our wedding budget, this is one I have compiled since our wedding with what we did in mind and other budgets in mind too. This is just my opinion and prices may vary according to your dreams and wishes*
2. Check with the registrar before booking the venue
I had to put this one in and if you don’t know why, read this ‘I do’ …not have a clue what I’m doing! The Legalities.
3. Trust yourself
It is your wedding after all. Everyone else will have their ideas but the wonderful thing about this world is that everyone is different! This is your day, you and your husband (to be) should make the decisions! If someone doubts your BRILLIANT idea – WHO CARES?
4. Don’t leave anything until the last minute
I MAYYYYY have been doing my table name signs the day before, maybeeee! Not the best idea I’ve ever had! Luckily, it didn’t cause too much stress for me but I can imagine it could!
5. Flowers, flowers, flowers
I can’t stress how LUSH they are and how important they are. Again, if on a budget, shop around. Don’t feel you have to go with a certain company because their website looks great or everyone has them. Ask locally. Ours were local and beautiful and so reasonable! Trust the florist, they know what they’re doing and they don’t want to let you down anymore than you don’t want them to! I personally think flowers make the wedding look like a wedding! So yeah, FLOWERS, get them!
Read all about my flowers here.
6. DIY all the way
It is so satisfying to know that your ideas and your designs have been used at YOUR wedding. A personal touch feels amazing! Get everyone involved. It honestly makes it so much more special! Find out about my DIY projects here and here.
7. Don’t stress
Cliché but everything WILL be fine. Stress can spoil the experience. I was determined not to get stressed. In fact, for me, the wedding planning was a stress relief! Let it be that for you too! Each time you feel you’re stressing, step away from the planning and come back to it later! It’ll all still be there!
8. Get Pinterest
If you’ve been following my wedding planning journey, you probably already have but goodness me, Pinterest helped a lot AND it was fun. Hell, even if you’re not even planning a wedding, get it anyway! I’m still OBSESSED! Our house WILL be a Pinterest house thank you very much!
9. Be nice to people and be happy
The florist, the photographer, the baker, the venue, just EVERYONE! BE.NICE.TO.EVERYONE! Do not turn into Bridezilla! At the end of the day, the people you are working with are people too! Yes, you may be paying them but they are working their butts off to make your day special! Be nice and they’ll be nice to you! I couldn’t believe how many people were surprised at how nice I was being or how relaxed I was, they just hadn’t experienced it enough and I think that’s so sad! I’m not blowing my trumpet, I don’t think I’m amazing but I was nice! Plus, if you’re nice and happy on your big day it means everyone else will be too! You want people to enjoy? You have to enjoy yourself!!!
10. Take in every single second
You will hear this a million times before the big day but I mean it, this is one piece of advice that although said to death is the best piece of advice you can be given. YOU HAVE TO TAKE IN every single part of the planning as well as the day because it is genuinely the best time of your life and you won’t want to take a single second for granted. Every now and then I would stop, take a breath in and think about what I was doing, where I was, what others were doing and how I felt! I’m so glad I did because I can tell you now exactly how I felt when I stood over my DIY projects whilst creating them watching wedding films, how I felt when I was sticking in pictures to my wedding planner that Nia bought me, how I felt when the girls gave me my presents the night before and when we all said goodnight, exactly how I felt when I went to visit my nan’s grave with my dad and my brothers, exactly how I felt before the doors opened on our wedding day with my lovely dad on my arm, I can tell you how I felt the second Dan and I took selfies just after the ceremony (haha, yes we did) and I can tell you EXACTLY how I felt when I stood between my mum and dad to have our first picture together with me as a bride! Take in, every single second! EVERY SINGLE SECOND because it is truly the most amazing feeling you will ever feel and to be able to relive it in my head is precious; just precious!
Well, there you have it my friends, my top ten tips for wedding planning!
I am so jealous of all you lovely people planning your wedding but I’m also so very grateful for my lovely memories that I am still reliving now and I am super excited to be planning the rest of my life with my man!
Ciao for now!
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*disclaimer – this is NOT our wedding budget, this is one I have compiled since the wedding with what we did in mind. This is just my opinion and prices may vary according to your dreams and wishes*